Thursday, May 6, 2010

My life in Mumbai...!!!


My new blog is inspired by the movie Wake up Sid. Yeah by the way inspired is not the correct word, but you can relate it to the kokana's article "A new girl in the city" ... same is the case with me as I am also new to mumbai. J J

But unfortunately there is no Sid in my life and I don't live in that sea facing lovely flat. My experience is complete different.

So this blog is not about any love story or any professional struggle. Its about the different people and the changing times.

Here I start... by the way sometimes I sound so filmy. In my early blog too I had mention about rang de basanti movie. See I am so inspired by our bollywood movies and hero. Oops sorry if I am giving you wrong impression.. no no I didn’t relocated to mumbai for trying in bollywood. :P :P

Mumbai is the dream city for many of them and don’t know why I never used to liked it. When I got through the interview here due to some personal problems I had join it. I was consoling myself that I do have hell lots of college friends here. I am gonna enjoy and all. But the scene was completely different. Everyone out here is so busy that they don’t even have time for you. And you are lonely. You have to find your new friends. When you expect from your very good friends and they turn you down. U just start hating the place and you feel so lonely.

Imagine a life where u r shifted to new place. When ur old friends turns you down, When ur roomie is dominating, wen ur job is tedious and when ur health is not good. You have good earning but u spend more. You buy expensive and branded things and they do retard..!! what will you call such life.!!! Ofcourse hell .. rite?

I am living such life and still trying to find happiness in small small things. Trying to enjoy what I have. Spending time for myself so that I feel special. But nothing is helping more..!!! Leave it. Thats my destiny and it will change soon.

Wondering how the life changes. Once you leave your nest(home), you think you ar a free bird, you can fly high now. But the bitter truth is as soon as you take off ... You have to bare the burden of many responsibilities. And these responsibilites increases day by day....!! and soon you realize that now its time to build our own nest and settle down.

Therefore my mind says me that if you have so many problems why not get married and settle down. And for girls this is the best option. Isn’t it?

The groom hunting for me started. My weekends in Mumbai was booked for the blind dates arranged by my parents..!! I know it sounds weird but yeah I call them blind dates only. And these are sometimes so boring that you just want to run away but you can’t. The painful part of this date is you can’t be yourself. You have to show you are so perfect. You have to talk about good things and be formal.

Soon I realised what the hell I am doing? If I am not able to handle things or if I am feeling lonely then will marrying someone will solve the problem?? Isn’t it like running away ? I should have courage to face them. Getting married is not wrong but I should have a better reason for it.

Wondering , earlier I was a care free bird. I never used to think seriously about myself and my life. But now the times are changing. I used to crack stupid jokes and used to do stupid things...!! now I am getting serious. Y?

I must say everyone should spend time for themselves to realize what we always wanted to do and never did it. To realize still the sky is open for us. To realize that its your life and you have to take your own decision. To realize that one day you will get what you want. To realize that money is not everthing. To realize that hardwork always pays you back.

And this new city taught me big lessons in small span of time.

20 comments:

Unknown said...

Nice:)

sharad harjai said...

Ur's is not a blog...
Feels like u just talk to yourself !!
N thats how a blog should be .. Keep it up :)

Aditya Nandode said...

Explore! Crub! And do not pretend! And welcome to world of blogging!

shivani said...

nice blog..............but i dont know why after shifting from mumbai to indore i still feel that mumbai is the best place to live...........i love that life....especially for me i can say that i discovered myself in mumbai......

Neha Mehta said...

Thanks for the responce. !st of all pardon me for the grammatical mistakes. Was so busy wid other things that didn't read it for 2nd time. Now feeling guilty..

Waise Shivani I didn't say mumbai is bad place. The thing is I don't have much friends here..!!

Unknown said...

hey u r getting better ....nice blog yaar.... i will curiously wait for your next blog with some more explored but not noted things about life in MUMBAI.........C U SOON...

Sunit said...

Hi Neha,

Excellent portrayal of reality of life. We have all been to this phase of life, some come out of it very soon learning many things in turn and some take a little more time in doing so. It all depends on the situation one is in. I have been there too. Do not think it related to Mumbai or some place. It is all you. I have some things which I have learnt very soon in my life from this phase which I will point out here.

1) Busy Busy Busy and be busy. Always keep yourself busy except when you are sleeping. Whether it be a part-time college, correspondence MBA/MS/Language, week-end aerobics, dance, singing, musical-instrument classes or blogs. Always create one or more equivalent parallel lives for yourself where you can switch your whole self in every day apart from your office life. This is like a back-up of your daily life in D: drive where C: drive is your office life.

2) Exercise Exercise Exercise and exercise. Not for anything but to extract more from your body. Let the energy smoothly flow in your body and mind. Remove the blockages.

3) Be independent in everything you do. Whether it be cooking, living, traveling. You are now a standalone human-being. Nobody will ever take responsibility for you. This is the bitter-truth of life. The more independent you are, the less vulnerable you will be and less fragile so that nobody will be able to break you apart.

4) Do not compromise if you do not have to. Be bold, speak-up, or change the circumstances if necessary. This life is the only chance to prove yourself and you are only responsible for it. Others are always others... remember... Do not look for friends but let friends be found.

This is all, call/mail/scrap/ping me and keep blogging.

Nidhi said...

hiii....neha i love u...its really very touching thought...

!! VC !! said...

wooo... gud one neha.... i never knew abt ur writing skills...

Unknown said...

Tripti Mehta:- nehu good betu. i miss u and understand your problems. but fly in the sky high & high. we r all with u.

k.ø.c.h.ü said...

lovely post i shud say. a must read 4 all...

Rishi Kumar Singh said...

Very true...nice one...

SIFE SIOM said...

hmmmmm
diagree with most of the points.....

nt blaming u.....thts just i feel

smashes said...

I use not to read blogs on such things(Life), this is the first time I went through the blog.

Neha, its been a long time when we forwarded msgs :)

Now coming to my reviews about your blog:)----

I must say ur writting is impressive........hummmm:)

It happens mostly with all the people who left their places to live their dream, but its not abt to make u down its just to teach u. One of my frnd's father said during ur career a time comes when you have to struggle a lot to sustain ur relations against ur profession and it may be anything but u have to struggle,but if a person survives during that time then for your further life no body can stop u for doing wat u want to do.

So, dont worry, its not about people(Friends) its about time. Just be always wat u r and do wat makes u feel happy and above all "DO NOT EXPECT from anyone". It makes u feel better:) and them too :P

Jobin said...

@@Getting married is not wrong but I should have a better reason for it.

Thats very true neha..marriage is not something like an entertaining show or a companion is not all about having good times...its more about having a normal life, which is a mixture of very good, good ,bad and real bad times...together being there for each other no matter what comes across...!!
it does makes sense when people say love is blind and marriage is an eye opener...especially when u get married for the wrong reasons...!!

Jobin said...

@@I am living such life and still trying to find happiness in small small things.

That's very true dear...its always the small things in life that brings a great amount of happiness in our lives...

Jobin said...

@@And you are lonely.

That's so rude of you to say that..!!
Don't you think we are your friends..??

Jobin said...

All in all..i really enjoyed reading ur blog...i know u didn't write it for ma entertainment but what i mean to say is these are somethings we all know..but hardly we stop and think about it...and even if we think about things like this we hardly do anything about it...so now that you have thought about things make sure you do something about it..!!
All the best..!!

Neji said...

Good Post ya..very interesting..it reflects ur inner self and shows off ur frustration too:)
do keep posting..

Guttu said...

This post reminds me of Konkana sen... But in Life in a metro. :P

They say.. In order to get something you have to sacrifice something. You get freedom and you sacrifice.. Right.

Your story is becoming very common these days. It's sad. But worse thing is, hardly anyone tries to live like you do.

I wish you best for you blind dates. You'll surely find a good match. Can't say Perfect. Coz I believe life is nothing when everything is perfect.

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